Our lives are constantly changing. In our own world – relationships, health, work, finances, plans. Externally we need only consider politics, world happenings, climate. All these changes impact how we are, how we show up in our lives. Sometimes this impact can cause a deep level of fear. Do we keep on being how we […]
I’ve just done two days of intense front-of-room training/coaching/observing. Arriving to set up, and debriefing after each day with my colleague meant about 10 hours each day of having to be as present and aware as possible.
So this morning I treated myself to a couple of hours’ doze time, with my cat Satchmo keeping me […]
I had a conversation today with a lady who’s been reading this series of posts about compassionate confidence. She told me she’s really enjoyed reading them, she can sense how much this life approach will help her. And like most of us, just wants things to change Now!
We’re all like this lady, at some level. […]
Now we’re getting to the living of compassionate confidence. When we allow ourselves to be quietly, strongly confident, when we accept ourselves as we are without fear or judgement, when we allow ourselves to fully express ourselves ….. Then, we begin to experience the joy of compassionate confidence.
You will start to feel it, after a […]
“OK Trudy, you’re known for your work with ‘compassionate confidence’. These are two things I’d like more of in my life. But I need to know how practical this is? How can ‘practical compassionate confidence‘ help me in my regular daily, working, stressed, busy life?”
I received this question from a reader of one of my […]
At some point during their journey with me, clients may come to the point where they say: “I’m stuck here. I know I need to do something, lots of things differently, but I just don’t know where to start or how to do it”
And I feel like doing my Happy Dance! We’ve reached the beginning […]
Finish Unfinished Business
Yup. You know that feeling of unfinished business? How it makes you feel? How your heart sinks at the resentment and anger you hold inside at those you are not at peace with; the anger at yourself; the hurt?
This unfinished business with others is the biggest stumbling block to being able to hear your […]
I can imagine a puzzlement right now, why is she writing about self-trust, when she’s a self-compassion coaching specialist?
Good question. And here’s another one.
How much do you trust yourself? Seriously. Think of a spectrum from 1 – 10, with 10 being highest. And ask yourself that question. “What’s my self-trust score”?
Now, your cognitive self is […]
So by now, after four days of ‘Why’, you’ll be knowing that there are tons of great reasons to allow yourself to get your self-compassion groove on. (I’m beginning to sound like a Hippie ….. lovely!)
The final ‘why’ I offer you is this:
You begin to be on your side: You have your own back. You’ve […]
Yesterday I offered the concept of self-acceptance as part of self-compassion. ‘Accept the unacceptable’. This is a pillar of SC.
And it takes time to get used to this. Here are some suggestions to help you do that.
Be willing to do it: Obvious, I know, but true. Giving yourself permission to accept your imperfect self ultimately […]