What does being ‘Nice’ cost You?

I went to various catholic girls’ schools for many years, including five years in boarding school. Some good times, some ultimately deletable. Probably like you, the concept of being a ‘nice’ or ‘good’ girl was force-fed into me. It’s taken me years, a lot of personal development and self-examination to release it. To give myself […]

By | October 11th, 2018|Categories: Blog, Courage, Personal Power, Releasing control|0 Comments

What you Think Of Me ….. Is None of My Business

How do you feel when you read that statement?  Challenged?  Many years ago at the start of my coach-development journey, I came across this phrase. “What??” It totally stopped me in my tracks.

  •  I’d lived most of the years of my life to that point firmly believing that what others thought of me was more […]
By | September 11th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

Two Cars, Two Egos = Tyranny of Certainty

What happens when Egos in cars clash? I observed a sad, silly and ultimately stupid example of the Tyranny of Certainty last week.

I was heading to our local village, Holywood, down a long, steepish hill. There were cars legally parked on the right hand side of the road, leaving somewhat limited space for two cars […]

By | June 27th, 2018|Categories: Blog, Confidence, Courage, Releasing Fear|0 Comments

The Gym and The Cyclone of Perfection

Hi.  Yes, it’s me here again.   I’ve been absent from my Blogland for (gulp) six months. Believe me, it’s not due to lazines.  It was down to an unexpected and increasing lack of confidence. My fear of stepping back into the writing again. Let me explain.

The first three months of 2018 were a bit horrific […]

By | May 31st, 2018|Categories: Blog, Confidence, Courage, Releasing Fear|Tags: , , |1 Comment

Accepting the Tough Stuff

How many times a day do you find yourself in anxiety, fear, judgement, anger – with yourself or somebody else? Our default habit is to either lash out emotionally, and regretting that at a later time, or try to push them away, or push them down, denying them. This takes so much energy – and […]

By | November 28th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Confidence, Self-Compassion|Tags: , , |0 Comments

The Salad Dish, Self-Trust and Me

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Do you know those multi-section salad dishes, the ones that have small plates that sit in a circle around a central dish?   The small plates can hold a variety of things like olives, peppers, tomatoes, onions – lots of different things that go to make up a lovely […]

By | September 30th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Self-Compassion, Self-trust|Tags: , |0 Comments

Connect with your Inner Criticiser

Hello there – Do you have an Inner Critic? I know I certainly do. Which of you has more fun?

A recent pattern I’ve noticed is that of helping my clients to release themselves from the fear of their inner critic (IC). Which has led me to do a ton of reading and research so that […]

By | August 15th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Confidence, Inner Critic, Self-Compassion|Tags: , , |0 Comments