3 Steps to Your P-n-Q Confidence
The last weeks and months in the UK and around the world have been confusing and alarming. You know, as I do, that the slightest glimmer of ‘bad’ news has an impact on our confidence […]
Happy Head …. or …. Clutter Shame?
I don’t know about you, but as I get older (and maybe wiser?), Autumn gives me a feeling of wanting to clear and refresh my spaces. Between you and me, in some ways I look on Autumn as […]
Word of the Year – WOTY
Do You have a ‘Word of the Year’?
The idea of choosing a ‘Word of the Year’ frightened me when I first read about it a few […]
What does being ‘Nice’ cost You?
I went to various catholic girls’ schools for many years, including five years in boarding school. Some good times, some ultimately deletable. Probably like you, the concept of being a ‘nice’ or ‘good’ girl was force-fed into me. It’s taken me years, a lot of personal development and self-examination to release it. To give myself […]
What you Think Of Me ….. Is None of My Business
How do you feel when you read that statement? Challenged? Many years ago at the start of my coach-development journey, I came across this phrase. “What??” It totally stopped me in my tracks.
- I’d lived most of the years of my life to that point firmly believing that what others thought of me was more […]
Two Cars, Two Egos = Tyranny of Certainty
What happens when Egos in cars clash? I observed a sad, silly and ultimately stupid example of the Tyranny of Certainty last week.
I was heading to our local village, Holywood, down a long, steepish hill. There were cars legally parked on the right hand side of the road, leaving somewhat limited space for two cars […]
The Gym and The Cyclone of Perfection
Hi. Yes, it’s me here again. I’ve been absent from my Blogland for (gulp) six months. Believe me, it’s not due to lazines. It was down to an unexpected and increasing lack of confidence. My fear of stepping back into the writing again. Let me explain.
The first three months of 2018 were a bit horrific […]
Accepting the Tough Stuff
How many times a day do you find yourself in anxiety, fear, judgement, anger – with yourself or somebody else? Our default habit is to either lash out emotionally, and regretting that at a later time, or try to push them away, or push them down, denying them. This takes so much energy – and […]
The Salad Dish, Self-Trust and Me
With thanks to Zetouna.com for photo
Do you know those multi-section salad dishes, the ones that have small plates that sit in a circle around a central dish? The small plates can hold a variety of things like olives, peppers, tomatoes, onions – lots of different things that go to make up a lovely […]
Connect with your Inner Criticiser
Hello there – Do you have an Inner Critic? I know I certainly do. Which of you has more fun?
A recent pattern I’ve noticed is that of helping my clients to release themselves from the fear of their inner critic (IC). Which has led me to do a ton of reading and research so that […]