|What is it about Self-Compassion that’s so scary-making? What is it that makes us resistant to being kind to ourselves? And admitting that we are doing so?
We surely know how to be compassionate to others. We know what actions to take, the language, words and tone to use. So what the heck is in the way of us doing the same for ourselves?
Are we afraid of being thought selfish / self-centred / narcissistic / unhelpful /fill in your word here: __________________________?
I’ve done months and hours of reading, research and exploration in preparation for my various self-compassion programmes, and have realised that one of the essential ingredients in honouring ourselves with self-compassion is a really simple one. Simple, but perhaps not so easy. Ready?
Permission to allow ourselves to believe that we are equal to everybody else.
Permission to realise that we are responsible for ourselves. Permission to know for true that we are already Enough. Yesss. You are, you know.
Permission to know that how we treat ourselves is an indication, nay, a direct command, to others as to how we will let them treat us.
Permission to free ourselves from the Inner Criticiser.
Permission to support ourselves in being better friends to ourselves.
Permission to release old, conditioned habits and learn new, self-loving habits.
Permission to love ourselves. I’ll write that one again:
Permission to LOVE OURSELVES.
This list could continue for many more sentences – this is just the start!
And I can feel you agreeing with me, feel your heads nodding …. And then the question arises:
“How do I do that?”
And that’s my question to you. You know you far better than I do. I can make suggestions, but they are perhaps not ones that will work for you. As a Transformational Coach, I help you enjoy, tap into and bring out your own wisdom. I truly you believe you know your own answers to the question: “How do I do that?
Your Daily Insight …… Your Daily Insight may be a question, an action, a challenge, tool or a think-about. These are intended to help you fully personalise the work of this series in addition to development and learning.
Today’s Insight: Ensure you have a few minutes peace and quiet in a comfortable, warm, quiet space. Read through the words above again ‘til you have really absorbed them. Close your eyes, breathe right down into your tummy, feel your wisdom, Really feel it. Open your eyes. Take a piece of paper or journal. Choose whichever of these question(s) resonate for you, and without thinking too deeply, give yourself your answers.
- Where in my life do I give myself Permission?
- Where in my life do I not give myself Permission?
- What do I want to do to give myself deeper and more sustainable Permission? Where in my life?
- How do I do that?
Time required: 5-10 minutes
I’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this, and any of your questions. Email me: firstname.lastname@example.org; alternatively visit me on Facebook: Trudy Arthurs, the Compassionate Confidence Specialist.
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Toodles, for now.
With love, t